(Inspired by Gabor Mate’s book: When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress) Learning to listen to your intuition in money matters, matters. Have you ever agreed to something that felt wrong in your gut, only to regret it later? Maybe it was spending more than you intended, investing in something you didn’t quite understand, or lending money you didn’t really have. The head said yes, the mouth followed, but the body whispered no.

Good advice has always been about helping people make wise choices. But in the age of behavioural finance, there’s a new layer to consider: how we help people make those choices. Enter the concept of "nudging." A nudge is a subtle prompt designed to steer someone toward a better decision, without removing their freedom to choose. It might be as simple as asking, “Would you like to set up an automated savings plan while we’re here?” Or “Have you thought about what would happen if you didn’t have income protection in place?”

Financial planning, like therapy or coaching, isn’t just about solving a problem. It’s about holding a safe space where real change can happen. That space might be a spreadsheet, a conversation, or a long-term plan, but for the work to go deep and stick, it must feel grounded, steady, and secure. As clinical psychologist Jonathan Shedler once said, “The paradox of psychotherapy is that the more secure the boundaries, the more freedom there is within them, and the deeper the work can become.” This principle doesn’t only apply to therapy rooms; it applies to financial planning too.

Most of us like to think we're being practical with our money. We weigh up the risks, run the numbers, and avoid decisions that feel too uncertain. But here's a thought: what if what we call "practical" is sometimes just fear in disguise?

Real financial planning goes far beyond spreadsheets, securities and stocks. It’s about connecting money to life. And sometimes, the most important questions aren’t just “Can we afford it?”, but, “Is this the right decision for our lives right now?” In a recent conversation with clients, a seemingly simple question was raised: “Can we afford to upgrade to a larger home?” On paper, with stable incomes and good credit, the answer was yes. But digging deeper revealed that affordability and alignment are not the same thing.

Let’s be honest, when most people hear the words “compliance” or “safeguarding,” they don’t exactly light up with excitement. These terms might sound like they belong in boardrooms or legal documents, far removed from the day-to-day decisions you're making about your financial future. But here’s the truth: they matter more than you might think.